June 27, 2017
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Privacy Concerns

Privacy Concerns

When you post any kind of content on the web, privacy is always a concern. When you post day-in-the-life vlogs every single day, those concerns become even more important. If you’re not careful, you can start to, intentionally or not, reveal aspects of your life that aren’t really safe to have floating around the web, be it information about where you live and/or work to very intimate details of your personal life. We certainly like that viewers of our videos feel like they’re a part of what goes on, because they are. But those videos don’t encompass 100% of what goes on in our lives every single day (if they did, each video would be 24 hours long). Not to mention that there are certain aspects of our lives and our relationship that we prefer to keep to ourselves, for sake of our safety or our sanity or whatever.

privacyThis is why it can be extremely frustrating whenever someone crosses the boundary of what’s okay and starts to do one or more things that start to invade our privacy. Previously, people were able to use enough details from videos to identify our apartment in Tallahassee. Now, a handful of people have managed to put together our address here in L.A., and have subsequently started posting that information on social media outlets like Tumblr, Twitter, and YouTube.

Needless to say, that’s not okay.

We sort of knew that this would happen eventually. As much as we try not to film directly outside of our building, we do film in a lot of very distinctive places that are nearby. Not to mention the fact that L.A. is a pretty populated city, and we live in a fairly populated neighborhood. Sooner or later, for some reason or another, someone was going to be able to put it together. That’s not what bothers us. What does bother us is why someone would feel that it was okay to share that information across the web. I’m not sure if the person(s) who keep sharing this information are trying to get our attention or get under our skin or if they think that they’re cool for knowing this information. I don’t know if we’ve done something to offend one or more of these people and they’re trying to punish us in some way. Point is, there’s no acceptable reason for anyone to release that information, or any sort of personal information that we don’t share ourselves.

Then again, I’m sure that most of you are aware of this. I know that a vast, vast majority of you guys out there would never seek out our personal information, much less share it across the web. Or at least I’d like to think that that’s the case, but I won’t be so bold as to speak for you. But I will ask you for something. As much as we try and keep these situations under control, we can’t be everywhere at once, so there are instances where such breaches of trust can slip by us unnoticed. So we ask you guys to help us out if you yourself encounter any sort of malicious commenting or posting, be it with our personal information or any other threats to our safety or well being. Report them, mark them as spam… luckily pretty much any social networking platform has some sort of feature like that built in. And if you feel like we need to be alerted about some sort of questionable activity online, please don’t hesitate to let us know. We take pride in the fact that we’ve built a pretty tight-knit community online, and we also try to make it a point to not ask you guys for anything unnecessarily. You guys already watch us regularly and give us so much love and support. Some of you even take it upon yourselves to send stuff to us, which is absolutely awesome and insane. But this is one of the few times where we do have to ask for your help.

I really don’t know why knowing our address would even be that big a deal. It’s not like we’re some sort of celebrities whose house belongs on a map. If you guys really want to try and get in touch with us, you’ve got all sorts of ways to try and do that. If you want to meet us, we have meet-ups as often as we can. If you want us to have something, we’ve got our P.O. box. Not to mention that, if daily vlogging ever started to pose a threat to our safety or our well being, we certainly wouldn’t do it anymore. We’re not celebrities, and we sure as hell can’t afford the kind of security that celebrities have. So when we do what we do online, we have to put a certain degree of trust in you guys. We certainly want to keep vlogging, and we’re pretty sure you guys want us to keep going too.

Thanks for all you guys’ love and support!

About RJ

RJ is a blogger/vlogger/writer and the other half of the NotAdamandSteve duo. When he's not making videos or writing stuff online he's usually working out, traveling, telling you factoids you never asked for, working out, or spending quality time with his new husband and German Shepherd.


  1. I’d like to believe that the people who are sharing that information really have no life experience and as such no real working knowledge of why what they are doing is quite dangerous.

    But really… some of them probably ARE as I’d like to believe; others are just jerks who see your address as a secret that they want to uncover. Why they think it’s cool and clever to share it with the masses is beyond me though.

  2. RJ, you said it very well. You’ve got my promise, as well as a few thousand others, that we will do what we can to ensure yours and Will’s privacy.

  3. I’m really sorry you guys have to go through this again. It’s really mind-boggling how some people have nothing better to do with their time.

  4. i’m sorry this had to happy to you guys, i know you’ve had problems like this before and i’ll be sure to spam any comments i see with your address in it

  5. It’s really disappointing that you guys have to deal with crap like this. I’ll be sure to keep an eye out for people posting inappropriate thing! Thanks again for all you do!

  6. I agree entirely with this, and I’m really sorry to here that this type of thing has happened to you guys as it is completely unfair to your lives etc and yes I’m pretty sure everyone wants to continue to see you guys vlog so I’m certain everyone in this community will try their bests to make sure nothing gets posted again! thank you guys again 🙂

  7. Sorry to hear that you guys have to go through this (again). It is startling how some people feel the need to do something like this. I mean sure I’d love to meet you guys, but there’s no need for this… just wait till VidCon or if I would live near the area I’d go to a meetup you guys plan.

  8. creeps on the internet, man. What’s scary is they have access to the real world :p

  9. thanks for the support guys <3

  10. I don’t understand why it’s even wanted to know your address. Like you said, we have the P.O. box to send stuff. Knowing the address is just pointless, unless they’re planning on creeping or something.

    Nevertheless, the true fans here will respect your privacy, and understand that you are real people, with real live, and real relationships that should be protected.

  11. Christopher Campbell

    As “public personalities”, you and Will have ever right to protect your privacy and yourselves. The only reason a person (and most likely it was just a single person, with others jumping on the bandwagon later) would go and violate that privacy; is to witness or provoke some sort of “event” that could put one or the both of them at physical risk. God knows there are enough people out there with a warped sense of reality that would act on that. This is why so many celebrities go ballistic on the paparazzi. Halle Berry and her daughter is a prime example. Paparazzi have tracked Berry’s daughter’s school, and published this information on countless occasions. It takes only one disturbed individual to kidnap the child and put everyone’s life in hell. While Will and RJ are not celebrities in that respect, who is to say that some one won’t track Will down one day during a walk with the dog, and threaten them? The action and intent is the same, and it is behavior that shouldn’t be tolerated in any way.

  12. I am so sorry Will and RJ that this has happened to you! Nobody has any right to give out any personal information about anyone without their consent! Please be assured it is only a few stupid people who would do something like that. And you have every right to protect yourselves! All of your loyal subscribers love you and want you both to be safe and happy 🙂 <3

  13. People never seem to think about how would they feel if something similar happened to them. Why would anyone think they have a right to put any kind of somebody’s personal information online? There are things I’ll never ever understand…

  14. I feel like sometimes people don’t necessarily think about their actions when they do things like this. All they see is “I know something that _______ amount of people don’t, let me plaster it everywhere.” Stuff like that ruins it for everyone…. I mean, I just don’t get why people take so much time and energy to invest into potentially endangering others’ lives. If people devoted that much energy into things in life that actually mattered…. maybe we would be further along in the world.

    Sorry… I just get infuriated when people breach other people’s privacy and personal boundaries.

    I just don’t get what is so important about knowing your address. As stated all the time, you guys have a PO Box where we can send you guys stuff. You willingly share a small portion of your lives with the Internet every single day. You’re open and warm to your viewing audience, and you appreciate them more than I’ve seen others do. You put so much out there. I just don’t get why people feel they have the “right” to know everything about your lives, including the personal and private stuff.

    I can’t speak about other people; I can only speak for myself. I appreciate you sharing what you DO share. It serves as an inspiration to me and my life. I know if I see anything out there that’s inappropriate, I’ll do what I can to either let you all know, OR to have it removed however I can.

    I’m sorry you have to go through this crap, Will & RJ. I hope nothing bad happens to you guys. People need to take up some hobbies…. like knitting or something.

  15. I think who ever posted your address is just plain wrong. I am thrilled that you are going to keep vlogging. I am one of your followers that will keep my eyes open for something like that and flag it ASAP.

  16. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. In my line of work, I have to guard my personal information (like my address); I’ve had two instances (granted, over a space of 30 years…) wherein creepy people came to my house (one followed me to work, called my direct number, and described what I was wearing). It’s disturbing and unsettling. I do hope you continue with your daily vlogs; they help so many people, while being charming and entertaining for the rest of us. It’s great to see just a NORMAL gay couple (unthinkable to be public like that when I was your age) going about your daily lives. Thank you for everything you do.

  17. As many others have said, I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Fans that have respected you all these years and know the professionalism that you and Will attempt to keep for your channel, could never imagine posting your address. Some people just like to be the one to know something that no one else does. It is so childish, really. In my line of work, I have to handle many of my online business with care. I want to be known as a professional. Not a young 20ish year old women who is up to no good (in reality, I’ve fairly lame). People just need to learn respect. Too bad some of those people who haven’t learned it yet went on your channel and messed with your business.

  18. We love you Wil & RJ, and wouldn’t ever want to see your personal lives put in jeopardy simply because some idiots think its ok to share personal information that they discovered. I am a teacher, so I can understand your inherent need for a separation between personal and professional worlds … it’s just a shame that you two have to deal with this :/. Please know that you have an army of Shepsexuals out here who are on your side 🙂

  19. Rossana Napoletano

    I can not understand why a subscriber, who is supposed to care about you, can do something so stupid that make you feel uncomfortable and threatened. I can understand how you feel and I’m sorry you have to go through this crappy things. I’ll be sure to report inappropriate comments under your videos. We want you to continue vlogging, and we’ll try to help you to keep your privacy.

    Sorry if I made any mistake, english is not my first language.

    Love you guys <3

  20. I just read this as I watch the you tube part I do not understand why people do this,my guess is they see what you both share and have together and can not stand it. but that does not gave them the right in doing what they or this person did! as I said before ill do my part please be safe both of you and dobby as well.

  21. Please please keep safe hunis and u both may need to take a self defense classes and /or get a gun for ur safeties…. This world and the people in this world is getting so insanely crazy now….. My hubby and I have one gun and I plan on getting my own gun for my safety, because he works nights and I’m home alone with our two sweet doggies….. Ur privacy should always always be respected no matter what……

  22. I just cant understand why people would do anything like that. The fact the you guys vlog everyday is amazing and is something that you don’t have to do (but if you were to stop I would be extremely upset) and the fact that we know as much about you two as we know is awesome, you guys give us so much, and the fact that people want to put more information out there then you already have out there I will never be able to understand. Really, this is why some people cant have nice things

  23. For the life of me, I do not understand the fascination is someone doing this. If you are a fan and enjoy the content, why would you jeopardize it? If you’re not a fan, why do you care. If it’s that big of a deal, maybe you should seek some help and leave Will and RJ out of it.

  24. why some people would do that?

  25. I swear to all this is Dobby… if SOME ONE ON HERE makes these two stop filming daily vlogs because they wanted to get attention for putting their address on line or made them feel unsafe to continue filming, the SHEPSEXUALS WILL RISE, HUNT… YOU … DOWN… and make you wish you never logged on.

    – You’ve been warned.

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