July 25, 2014
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More Than I Can Chew

More Than I Can Chew

It’s been a while since I’ve posted on here – it’s about time I hopped back on the horse.

Recently I’m thinking I may have bitten off more than I can chew. Growing up, I always tried not letting anything get in the way of what I wanted to accomplish. If I wanted something enough, I would do whatever necessary to get it. I’ve always been a goal-oriented, ambitious, Type A, go getter, so you can imagine how hard it must have been when something stood in my way. I’m not talking about stupid things like not having enough money to buy a CD I wanted or having enough gas to be a cool kid and drive to school. I’m talking about some[thing/one] not allowing me to say what I wanted to say or do what I wanted to do or be who I wanted to be.

In a rural community, there’s a lot of pressure to be ordinary or common and I found myself stifling a lot of who I was for the sake of my family and friends. I don’t regret a single decision, since I’m proud of the person I’ve become, but that doesn’t make the experience any more pleasing.

So now that I’ve left rural Florida and live in the bustling metropolis of Los Angeles, I find myself at the threshold of about a million doorways leading to different ventures and possibilities, and I want to cross them all. There’s nothing holding me back anymore like I was in high school and parts of college so hell yeah I’m gonna go for it. Why not? What can I lose?

I think I’m starting to figure that out.

I’ve been pretty good at juggling a lot of responsibilities at once in the past, but now it’s getting a little ridiculous. So now I have to make a choice: reduce what I want to do or kill myself trying.

Which one is worse?

About Will

Will is a recent graduate from Florida State University and transplant to Los Angeles who makes the occasional video on YouTube documenting his life with his fiancé and German Shepherd.
  • Rick Castaneda

    I am so proud of what are doing and showing the world. If you need to take a break and relax and keep yourself healthy, then you need to do that. Thank you for what you have done and will support you in every decision you do. Just so happy that I get to be witness the life that you and RJ share. Also to see that adorable puppy Dobby. You will always have a supporter here. Take care of yourself.

  • Samantha

    Will I support you taking the vlog break. I miss the videos so much bit if you need a break then you take that break. I don’t think you should reduce what you want to do but I think you need to reduce all the things you’re trying to do all at once. It seems like you’ve been doing a WHOLE LOT of stuff lately and I think you just need to chill a little bit. Maybe postpone doing certain things if it’s life’s getting hectic.

  • Mario Gomez

    I feel like you guys are a part of my life already, even though you are inside a computer screen, and I don’t know you in person. Will, if you need a break, then take it. Tackle them one at a time. Don’t do too much at once, or I fear that you will crack under the pressure of juggling all the responsibilities at once. I am more than happy that you have set goals in your life. That’s my advice. You have a Channel, a website, a day job, and all those things take space in your life. Chill, and don’t let things get hectic.

  • Francine Powers

    omg will,i am so afraid to say anything.by now,you know how much I genuinely care about you and rj,considering I only know what you show,but my heart and head only knows what it knows. anyway,you and the biance seem to be juggling way way too much or at least finding it hard to figure it out.whatever,i know you two will,because your post for me was too sad.this is a happy time in your lives so you shouldn’t be sweating anything that makes you have to choose one thing over another.

  • Ronja Svensson

    We all want what’s best for you. Honestly, yes I miss daily blogs but I rather you be happy than stressed out. I’m thinking you have to prioritize what you want the most and then only do that. You’ve already accomplished a lot, y’kno?

    I once played the clarinet and my teacher was very successful. I was good, I played concerts and all that.. But I got so stressed out that I would literally faint. So I asked her, how do you do it? How did you become so successful and talented without breaking? And she said that I had to focus on the things I was already good at and then master that, practice more at one thing, rather than being mediocre at everything. I hope that you can translate that into your life in some way. Love you :)

  • Bjørn R Grimsby

    Why is this a “one thing or the other”?
    You said there’s a million doors open. I highly doubt all of them will close and lock at the same time. Some will close and lock, others will close temporarily, but all at the same time? Nah. I’d rather see a rested Will, RJ and Dobby every second or third day than a more and more exhausted Will, RJ and Dobby everyday. You’re made of flesh and blood, just like me., Even idle persons have their limitation.

    Make a list. Find out what is just a whim and place them at the bottom. Then prioritize the rest. What has to wait will simply have to wait. Cooking classes is something you might not fit quite in with your hectic lifes just now, but maybe later in life when it’s not as hectic?

    In other words, Don’t put away any wish, just order them in a line, then execute.

  • Daniel Park

    We are hardwired into not “quitting”, because of the fear of failure…but failure is a part of life, growing and change. I’ve just suffered a fail so devastating that I may never recover, but in this case it was my fault and my selfishness that led me to this… and I accept the responsibility. This can’t be said of your dreams and ambitions. You’re always trying to share more with others…so, if you can keep following those dreams, then I wish you all the luck in the world.

  • Chris Wagner

    Will, I’ve spent a long time trying to find my goals in life, and the key I’ve found is prioritization. First of all tell yourself what is absolutely essential to you, what you could not live without, then imagine your future and decide what you want to be there, then factor in what you can do to get from your situation to where you want to get to. If doing too much is making you unhappy then it defeats the point of doing it. You have to work your way down from the essentials to the cut off point where you can’t do anymore and that’s where you draw the line. You have always done so much for others and have helped so many people over the years including myself enormously. Now you have to help yourself and scale things back so as to make things bearable again, work back to when it was manageable. Nobody can do everything because nobody is perfect. We are amazing just the way we are.

  • Sir F. B .V Ross

    Hey.! Will & RJ. I sure miss the daily videos from you. But I can understand you need time off to reflect on different things in your life. And I am sure the rest of the YOUTUBE can understand.as well. I am sure Dobby is growing a lot every day. Funny when the Robot start’s after him he gets scared, but that is new to him. After awhile he will get used to it. I hope you both have a great night.
    Cheers Mate.

  • Diegovuitton

    I would say kill yourself trying, if the opportunity is there, you should take it, but I don’t want it to risk anything that’s highly important to you, you know yourself better then anyone else, so you know what you can Handle, but I wish you the best on your decision making, your a smart man I’m sure you can figure it out :)

  • Sanchez19

    As someone currently living in a rural community and going through exactly what you described in a rural environment, I’m telling you to go for it. Do it for me and all of the other people that still feel how you once felt. Living vicariously through you is not my overall goal, but it is the first step to getting the fuck out of here.

  • Rawan

    you just described me.. this literally what I do every time! I’ve always been like this! people always tell me I need to relax and not have so much on my plate, for me, I would kill myself trying but that’s just me! when I see anyone going through anything like that I always tell them reduce what they want to do because I hate seeing people struggle but I also always tell them if it’s something YOU really want to do you should kill yourself trying! so I guess what I’m trying to say is if you want to do everything you need to figure out some sort of schedule to help you and if you had to make some changes believe me if the people around you are as supportive as they say they are they will understand.

  • matta-kun

    Tricky, but I understand where you’re coming from. I’m from Roswell, a small town in southern New Mexico. It’s very rural and being gay was not even a possibility in high school. I remember as a sophomore Seventeen magazine came and interviewed the students because of the TV show Roswell. A guy actually came out and I saw how horrible his life became so I also stifled much of myself to avoid harm. I kept thinking how different “the big city” of Albuquerque was and would allow me to be me making it my goal after graduation. I’m here now as an adult, it has given me a lot of opportunities, but it’s not really that much different than where I was. When I finish school my husband and I may actually move away to a bigger city with even more opportunity. We just really have to make sure where we go because as a nurse I would have to re-register in the state we move. As an accountant Ari would also have to re-do tests and certifications. He’s done with school next year and I’m done in 2 years, so we have time but…not that much. When you guys moved to LA I was inspired and a little bit jealous to be honest. I’m so afraid to travel because of what it would mean to me since I’m still in school but you guys are doing it, living the dream! I think you should go for it! You’re young, smart, you’ve got an impressive degree, and you have an amazing support network, the only thing holding you back is you.

  • Mark Charge

    Do All The Things! your Type-A brethren shout!
    It comes down to how much pressure you can put yourself under – I am finding more and more, that I can only do a certain amount, if I want to add something I have to let something else go. Do the things that you have to, then do the things that make you happy!

  • http://kryssinykki.hubpages.com/ christina murray

    i say try to find a balance between the two. you don’t want to wind up missing opportunities and regretting it OR running yourself into the ground trying to do everything. balance is key. examine all the things you want to do and see which are the best at a particular time and which are best at another. that way you get to it all but you’re still standing in the end :)

  • Jamie Woodard

    Personally, I’d rather do a few things really well than try to do everything and end up doing a mediocre job. We all have our limits, and, while it’s definitely good to push those limits some times, don’t let yourself get burned out in the process.

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