I know that a lot of kids have a tough time coming out to their parents because they’re uncertain as to how they will react. I asked my mom if she would share her experience so maybe these kids can gain perspective. Here’s what she had to say:
When I first learned that Will was gay, I was not surprised. I had suspected it for quite some time. Although there was always a small part of me that thought, “I could be wrong,” my suspicions were confirmed and it was upsetting. I remember thinking to myself… “how am I ever going to be able to protect him from the world?” That is an awful feeling to have as a parent regarding your children. You only wish for their safety, well-being, happiness, etc. That’s when it hit me… his happiness. As long as my son was happy, that’s all that mattered to me. At that moment, his homosexuality became a non-issue and his happiness was priority.
So I made it my top priority to involve myself in his life and to let him know that I loved him… period. We gradually began to talk more openly about his lifestyle and experiences. While a little unsettling at times, it was very important to me. I did not want my son to grow up thinking for a moment that I did not approve of his lifestyle or did not accept him for who he is. In my eyes, he is my son. I will love him til the day I die.
As a parent of a gay child, it is extremely vital to be an active and diligent advocate for my son. It is unimportant to me what anyone else may think of me and my family. What is important to me is my son and his rights as a human being to be treated equally and fairly, free from discrimination and judgment.
My advice to any parents that may be going through this situation is this… accept your child for who they are, involve yourself in their lives and be happy for them. You can make a difference.
I love you, Mom.