April 26, 2017
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Dealing with Haters

Dealing with Haters

Dear Will and R.J.,

I don’t know if ya’ll will be able to read this with all the emails that you are no doubt receiving, but here’s to hoping! I am a straight girl, and I wanted to know how you deal with any hate that comes your way? Be it over the internet, from strangers, or even people you came out to. I know how much hate there can be out there, and I want to know how ya’ll deal with it. I like to think of myself as a fighter for gay rights, and I often find myself in very heated debates, which end up getting very . . . verbally violent. But that’s the way I like dealing with it. I was just wondering how you both deal with it individually and together, and if it ever gets to be too much for ya’ll to handle.

I would also like to say that I’m glad that you have each other, I’m a (sorta) new subscriber, and I can see how ya’ll are perfect for each other. Congratulations 😀

-Maggie

This is a good question! I wouldn’t really consider ourselves to be in the limelight often, but we’ve been in the crosshairs a few times when it comes to haters, especially online. In fact, there was a stretch a few months back where people (or person) were blowing up RJ’s Tumblr with how much of a worthless person I was. Plus, on top of that you get all of the incredibly intelligent YouTube accounts that leave elaborate comments like “fag” “gay” “queer” “die in hell” and “Jesus hates you”. Sometimes there’s just too much fun to go around!

But to be honest, having supportive subscribers makes it easier to deal with, because we know that what we’re doing does have a positive effect out there somewhere. I usually don’t let the comments get to me, but when they do, it’s nice to have a stack of emails to go back to and remind yourself of what you’re doing. I feel like RJ handles the hate wayyy better than I do, which is funny considering that I went through so much bullying as a kid. You would expect that, after all the crap I had to go to, that it would be easy just to shrug certain comments off. Sometimes it’s hard. But most of the time it’s easy.

So, even though you may not think that we don’t read every message that’s sent to us, we definitely do. It either goes directly to my phone, where I read it in the middle of class or on the way home from school, or to our mailbox on our Mac. Of course, it always takes time to go through everything, but everything gets read, and it’s nice to stow away the super positive letters that inspire us to continue, even when idiots try to ruin things for us.

In short, I deal with the hate by reminding myself of the love, which should really just be a way of life at this point.

– Will

About Will

Will is a recent graduate from Florida State University and transplant to Los Angeles who makes the occasional video on YouTube documenting his life with his fiancé and German Shepherd.

One comment

  1. Life is what you make of it. You can leech every last drop of goodwill out of humanity though exploitation and hate, or you can squeeze every last drop of love out of it by being positive and always trying your best to help people along the way.
    I know which one I’d choose – and I know which one you have chosen. What other people do with their lives is up to them, but all I can reasonably say is that if “Jesus hates you”, how much more is he going to hate someone who has been bitter, twisted and bigoted all their lives?

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