July 23, 2017
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“A Gay Day in America” 2012

“A Gay Day in America” 2012

The Advocate, which, as you know, is pretty much our favorite LGBT news publication, does this little thing every year called “A Gay Day in America”. The gist of this little project is that LGBT people all across the nation submit photos and such of whatever it is that they happen to be doing on a certain day. This year just so happens to have AGDIA on Friday, November 9th. I’m not sure if it’s always on November 9th or if it’s always on the second Friday of November or however they decide when to do it. Point is, they would like as many of their readers as possible to send stuff in. Considering what Will and I have been doing for the past year, it seems silly not to participate. But here’s the thing, Will and I would likely participate in this project even if we weren’t already making daily videos. In a way, the folks at The Advocate are trying to accomplish the same goal with “A Gay Day in America” that we have been trying to accomplish with our daily videos, which is mainly visibility.

There’s no denying that we live in one of the most diverse and tolerant time periods in our country’s history. We recently re-elected our first ever black president, we’ve elected the first openly gay senator and the first disabled veteran in Congress. Even better, we’ve finally managed to obtain victories in the popular vote for marriage equality in at least two states, a feat that seemed almost impossible just four short years ago. Yet, despite all of this, there are still millions of people who refuse to acknowledge the rights of LGBT Americans. We unfortunately also live in a time where organizations like NOM and the FRC exist. We live in a time when many of us lack vital protections under the law. We live in a time where we are demonized by those who oppose us, and portrayed as people who lead a lifestyle that is not only destructive to ourselves and our offspring (should we be allowed to have them), but to the entire fabric of society as a whole.

Of course those of us who do lead a “gay lifestyle” (whatever that may be) know how ridiculous these assertions are. Yes, there are those of us who live up to the stereotype of circuit parties and drinking and drugs and frivolous sex, but watch any episode of Jersey Shore and tell me that there aren’t straight people who commit the same sin. No, most of the rest of us lead lives that are relatively tame by comparison. We have day jobs. We buy groceries. We make doctors and dentist appointments. We deal with credit card companies and telemarketers and junk mail. We celebrate birthdays and holidays. We deal with loss and heartbreak and heartache. We mourn death and tragedy. We keep close the people that we love, and we try our best to avoid the people that we hate. It is that shared humanity that tends to win over the most cynical of opponents (I should know, I’m related to some of them). While all of the marching and the chanting and the sign-holding is important, so too is the importance of simply showing, by example, how we’re not so different.

This is why projects like our “Vlog Every Day in 2012” or their “Gay Day in America” are so important. When our opponents gather in their hordes and feed off each other, it’s extremely easy for them to surmise whatever they want to about the “Gay Lifestyle” or “Gay Agenda” or whatever. By sectioning themselves off, they are making it a point to stay separate and isolated from us, which allows them to spread whatever disinformation they want without meeting any evidence to the contrary. Say, for instance, that someone came up to you and told you about an isolated tribe of cannibals living somewhere in Central Africa. Any information they tell you could be true or false, but unless you were to witness that tribe’s culture or customs firsthand, you have no real way of knowing what to believe and what not to believe.

So by putting our lives out there for the world to see, we are essentially help bridge the gap between us and the people who essentially don’t know any better. After all, how can you expect a person to realize the ridiculousness of certain disinformation if we offer no evidence to the contrary? It’s important (I’d even say vital) that we show the world just how human we are and just how mundane and/or extraordinary our lives can be. Try as we might, we cannot rely solely on logic and reason to win over our opponents. If we could, don’t you think the issue would be ancient history by now? We must make it clear to these people, and to the world, that we are just as human as the rest of the population. What better way to do that than to simply show them?

So you can bet that we will be participating in The Advocate’s “A Gay Day in America 2012”, and we hope that you do too. It’s as easy as snapping a photo and uploading it. We’ll let them give you the rest of the details (click HERE).


About RJ

RJ is a blogger/vlogger/writer and the other half of the NotAdamandSteve duo. When he's not making videos or writing stuff online he's usually working out, traveling, telling you factoids you never asked for, working out, or spending quality time with his new husband and German Shepherd.

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